The Sexual Abuse Epidemic and the One Story That Can End It
When I switch on my TV, I can find endless debates about sexual abuse and harassment, but as far as I can tell the Biblical view is entirely absent. Christians participate in these debates, but I’m having trouble finding them saying anything different from the various political factions with which they are aligned.
What does the Bible say about all this? It says that the job of the man is to guard the woman in the garden. The man and the woman were together. They were on each others’ side. The Bible does not side with the woman against the man, nor does it side with the man against the woman. It takes the side against the serpent who wants to play the man and the woman off against one another.
The man and the woman are not equal: equal isn’t nearly good enough. If equality were the highest good, then there would be no reason to have both men and women. Instead of equality we have love, and love is based on difference.
So the man is put as a guardian of the garden, and the most valuable thing (more valuable than anything in the world, more valuable than everything in the world put together) is the woman. So the main thing he is supposed to guard is the woman.
He didn’t do his job. A monster came and the man let the monster into the garden. He did nothing to stop it, and then he just stood there while the monster told the woman lies. The biggest lie was that God could not be trusted and that He gave them rules because He was afraid the man and the woman would become too powerful for Him. The man just stood there while the monster poured poison into the woman’s ears.
The monster convinced the woman that if she stole food from God and ate it, that all her problems would be solved. The man watched while she ate, and when she didn’t die, then he ate the stolen food too. She was tricked, but he was not. So he had less excuse.
Then things got worse. The man and the woman felt like they had to hide from each other. They could not bear to be seen by the other. They girded themselves in Hagaroth, loincloths for battle, because they were now enemies.
When God came to rescue them, they were so confused that they ran from their Rescuer. They didn’t run away together, they ran away apart. The man said “I hid myself.” which is the very first time the word “I” ever appeared in the Bible. They were not ‘We’; he was an ‘I’, and she was a separate ‘I’. They did not share a common interest.
Since they were at war with each other and at war with God, it would not be good for them to remain strong, so the things in which they previously had been strong, were now turned into weakness. The earth would not yield its strength to the man. Bringing children into the world, a joyful thing for the woman, would not be mixed with pain and sorrow.
The garden period was over. God told them a hard truth. He told them them that in this state, the woman would long for the man, would have a desire deep in the heart of her being for something from him. But the man would rule over her, rather than give her what she longed for. They could not be fulfilled by each other alone, so this left them in a state of desire and conflict at the same time. There would be an uneasy equilibrium between them. The Bible is realistic that way. It tells us the truth. People who hate the Bible say that it is a book of fairy tales, but the truth is that it is the people who hate the Bible who tell fairy tales. They tell silly stories about perfect women vs. evil men or vice versa, stories in which men and women don’t need each other, stories in which men and women are exactly the same, lies that men and women can exist in this world without this uneasy equilibrium. The truth is that unless the man is willing to die for the woman, to undo his original act of cowardice and perfidy when he refused to protect her, when he betrayed her, then uneasy equilibrium of longing and domination is about the best that could be expected.
Millennia later, a man came into the world, and He too was tempted in a garden, but when soldiers who were doing the bidding of the monster came into the garden looking for someone to kill, He leapt up from His knees and stepped in front of the soldiers, offering His life. He fought the monster, and he sweated and was torn and bled and then He died. The fruit of the womb of the woman, He put himself back on the tree, returning what was stolen by the woman so long before. He did this not just as a king, but also as a husband. He undid, the original failure. He slew the monster, but in slaying the monster, He too was slain.
He showed the way back to the garden. Things will get worse and worse and worse until we regain this story. On this foundation, and on this foundation alone can the world be returned to sanity.
Jerry Bowyer is a Forbes contributor, contributing editor of AffluentInvestor.com, and Senior Fellow in Business Economics at The Center for Cultural Leadership.
Jerry has compiled an impressive record as a leading thinker in finance and economics. He worked as an auditor and a tax consultant with Arthur Anderson, as Vice President of the Beechwood Company which is the family office associated with Federated Investors, and has consulted in various privatization efforts for Allegheny County, Pennsylvania. He founded the influential economic think tank, the Allegheny Institute, and has lectured extensively at universities, businesses and civic groups.
Jerry has been a member of three investment committees, among which is Benchmark Financial, Pittsburgh’s largest financial services firm. Jerry had been a regular commentator on Fox Business News and Fox News. He was formerly a CNBC Contributor, has guest-hosted “The Kudlow Report”, and has written for CNBC.com, National Review Online, and The Wall Street Journal, as well as many other publications. He is the author of The Bush Boom and more recently The Free Market Capitalist’s Survival Guide, published by HarperCollins. Jerry is the President of Bowyer Research.
Jerry consulted extensively with the Bush White House on matters pertaining to the recent economic crisis. He has been quoted in the New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Forbes Magazine, The International Herald Tribune and various local newspapers. He has been a contributing editor of National Review Online, The New York Sun and Townhall Magazine. Jerry has hosted daily radio and TV programs and was one of the founding members of WQED’s On-Q Friday Roundtable. He has guest-hosted the Bill Bennett radio program as well as radio programs in Chicago, Dallas and Los Angeles.
Jerry is the former host of WorldView, a nationally syndicated Sunday-morning political talk show created on the model of Meet The Press. On WorldView, Jerry interviewed distinguished guests including the Vice President, Treasury Secretary, HUD Secretary, former Secretary of Sate Condoleezza Rice, former Presidential Advisor Carl Rove, former Attorney General Edwin Meese and publisher Steve Forbes.
Jerry has taught social ethics at Ottawa Theological Hall, public policy at Saint Vincent’s College, and guest lectured at Carnegie Mellon’s graduate Heinz School of Public Policy. In 1997 Jerry gave the commencement address at his alma mater, Robert Morris University. He was the youngest speaker in the history of the school, and the school received more requests for transcripts of Jerry’s speech than at any other time in its 120-year history.
Jerry lives in Pennsylvania with his wife, Susan, and the youngest three of their seven children.